I Give She Takes 

My friend only calls when she wants something. I tell myself that helping her is part of the give-and-take of friendship, and that she will be there for me eventually, but she never is. What should I do?  

– Robert, Boston 

WE HAVE ALL BEEN GUILTY of using a friend selfishly, so before bailing on your pal, tell her calmly how you feel. Here’s hoping she takes your reasonable message to heart.